Keeping the love alive
When you’re in a long-term relationship, no matter how compatible you are, it won’t always be moonlight and roses. On Valentine’s Day, 44’s very own cupid, Bryan Jones, suggests five ways to keep the love alive…
One day you’re romping through the long dappled grass, holding hands, hair flowing – the next you’re glowering sourly at each other, all simmering resentment and bitterness.
Maybe you’re stuck in a relationship that’s just bobbing along and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.
On Valentine’s Day, the most romantic day of the year, we offer five top-tips to keep the love alive – whether it’s with your nearest and dearest, or your favourite client.
Having open and honest discussions and being receptive to feedback can be a bit daunting and sometimes difficult. But keeping the lines of communication open is vital in any relationship. Take feedback on board and look for the truth in what you’re hearing. And if there are tough conversations you need to have, be honest, stay positive and make sure you remain compassionate.
Take the time to spend 10 minutes a day checking in, just to see how the other person is doing. It may not sound very sexy, but it emphasises that you’re invested in keeping your bond strong – even when you’re busy.
It’s easy to get into a rut when you’ve been with someone for some time. You do the same thing over and over, because that’s what works and it’s safe. But you really need to make an effort sometimes to do something new and different. Suggest another way of doing things, think about what’s really important to them and surprise them with the gift of a brilliant new idea.
Being supportive when times are tough is vital, but it’s just as important to be supportive when things go right. Celebrate their achievements and triumphs, share your own successes and make sure you have fun together.
You should always be looking at ways you can grow together. Don’t be limited by what you’ve done in the past. Keep things fresh by imagining how you can go that little bit further to make the other person happy.